Jan 07, 2022 08:00am
Being A Gentleman in a Selfish World

I recently read the following story about being a gentleman:

More and more today we are faced with ever increasing selfishness and egotism. Everything from tee shirts to bumper stickers tout “it’s all about me, deal with it.” Many have said chivalry is dead, but I disagree. So what does it mean to be a gentleman in spite of all this?

Chivalry, or the act of being a gentleman, is a personal choice. It means consciously going out of your way to make others feel appreciated. Opening doors and occasionally buying flowers is but a small part of it. Being a gentleman means acting sacrificially.

A gentleman gives up his seat on the bus or train for an elderly person. He knows when to simply walk away from an argument rather than having the last word. It means not having your way sometimes. Is it worth it? Consider the state of our world. If more men led by example, and practiced this behavior, where might we be? I am proud to call myself a gentleman.  (Author unknown)

Those who know me well have on many occasions heard me make the following statement: “God is a Gentleman”. He opens the door of life continually for those who will choose to walk through it. He is always working in the best interest of those who love Him and have been called according to His purpose (meaning all born again believers). But here is the biggest reason I continually reference God as a gentleman, and it has to do with sin: 

Today more and more people in the body of Christ are being exposed for their sinful behaviors. I want to use that word again, exposed. I believe God is a gentleman and He gives us every opportunity as believers to confess our sins and repent before they are exposed to the world around us. He gave Adam and Eve the opportunity . . . 

Genesis 3:8-10 

And they heard the sound of the LORD God walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and the man and his wife hid themselves from the presence of the LORD God among the trees of the garden. But the LORD God called to the man and said to him, “Where are you?” And he said, “I heard the sound of you in the garden, and I was afraid, because I was naked, and I hid myself.

He gave Cain the opportunity . . . 

Genesis 4:8-9 

Cain spoke to Abel his brother. And when they were in the field, Cain rose up against his brother Abel and killed him. Then the LORD said to Cain, “Where is Abel your brother?” He said, “I do not know; am I my brother’s keeper?

The children of Israel were given opportunity after opportunity to confess their sin before they ended up in Babylon and the consequences of their sin exposed to the world. 

A pattern is developing in the body of Christ which is steadily on the increase: We don’t acknowledge our sin when God gives us warning of it through conviction by His Holy Spirit. The reasons for this vary. For some, we are so broken in our intimacy with Him that we don’t hear that small still voice of conviction. For others, our love of self is greater than our love for God as a believer. Or it may be that we believe Satan’s lie that God will not forgive us again for our sin. 

When God exposes sin, the consequences are devastating not just to you, but also to the people in our lives. Please hear my heart in sharing this – it is not to be critical but to exhort you. Personally, as a believer, praise God that He gives me ears to hear when He has convicted and is convicting me of the sin in my life. And I might add that sometimes it isn’t about being convicted, it is about flat out knowing you are sinning but doing it anyway because you are choosing your flesh over Him. 

My point is simple. God is a “gentleman”. He opens the door for us and gives us every opportunity to confess our sins, repent from things that are against His will and ways, and return to Him. But if we won’t, He loves us so much that He will expose us! 

The collateral damage done when we refuse to confess and repent of our sins before God brings us to the place of exposure and causes so much more damage than if we confess and return to Him of our own free will. 

Is God opening a door for you today? My dear friends, He is truly a gentleman. Please take His hand and walk through that door.

Every human on earth was created by a God who loves his creation.

Every human heart is being drawn by Him because of that creation.

God IS there. You can feel his love for you no matter your circumstances, and he is drawing you to himself . . . you simply have to accept the truth of salvation by grace through his Son Jesus. 

2 Chronicles 30:8-9  

 . . . but yield yourselves to the LORD and come to his sanctuary, which he has consecrated forever, and serve the LORD your God, that his fierce anger may turn away from you. For if you return to the LORD, your brothers and your children will find compassion with their captors and return to this land. For the LORD your God is gracious and merciful and will not turn away his face from you, if you return to him.

Thankful to know God as a Gentleman,



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